After a proposal, a celebration is definitely in order! Here's the engagement party etiquette to know before you plan an event.
Your Guide to Engagement Party Etiquette: 18 Do’s and Don’ts
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Do: Keep It Informal
Ultimately, it’s up to the couple to decide what type of engagement party they’d like to have—but many agree the affair should be more informal. Instead of confining guests to one specific table, engagement parties should follow a cocktail party menu, complete with a buffet-style set up or self-serve finger foods. This way, everyone is free to walk around and engage in the fun and well wishes.
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Don’t: Expect Gifts
Sure, being engaged comes with a ton of perks—and receiving thoughtful gifts is definitely one of them—but guests shouldn’t be expected to bring presents. Still, while it’s not required to bring a gift, many will want to. If you’re hosting, set aside a designated area for cards and presents…just in case! (Here are the best engagement party gifts.)
If the couple feels uncomfortable accepting gifts, direct guests to give to a cause instead. On the invite, suggest that guests bring one of these items that food banks need most. Be sure to set up a station to accept the donations when guests enter.
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Do: Choose a Host
Traditionally, the bride’s parents host the newly engaged couple’s party. Today, that rule can still work, but it’s more than OK for a close friend, another family member or a fellow couple to host an engagement party as well. Choosing a host is crucial, though, so that the party is run smoothly by the designated person in charge.
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Don’t: Skip Formal Invitations
Online or hard-copy invitations are both totally acceptable in this computer age, but we do suggest opting for something more official than a simple text or email. Paperless Post and Evite are reliable, user-friendly platforms with abundant (and adorable!) selections. Send snail-mail invitations 4-6 weeks ahead of the party and digital invitations about 4 weeks beforehand.
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Do: Make the Dress Code Clear
Although guests should avoid wearing white out of respect for the bride-to-be, that doesn’t mean she needs to don the color. The party is for the newly engaged couple, after all, so they’re the ones calling the shots, including the dress code. Most engagement parties entail cocktail attire, but if the expectations aren’t clear on the invitations, double-check with the host.
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Don’t: Separate the Families
Forget about a his or hers side. During an engagement party, both the bride and groom’s families should be encouraged to mix and mingle throughout the party. This might be the first time the newly engaged couple’s families are meeting, so it’s important to make it count and give them time to get to know one another. Here are a few ways to gift your most cherished family recipes to the happy couple.
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Do: Offer Activities and Icebreakers
Since it may be the first time new friends meet, provide a few activities to help break the ice. If it’s a casual picnic, outdoor games are a great starting point. Otherwise, an informal photo booth is a great way to get people to crack a smile and to capture some fun memories. Here are a few other smart ideas for your backyard party.
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Don’t: Repeat Food on the Wedding Menu
There are so many delicious wedding food ideas to serve on the big day. Engagement parties, though, should really not mimic the wedding menu. Instead, engaged couples and their host should offer a mixture of yummy finger food and appetizers that suit the theme and time of day. These engagement party cakes will make the festivities all the sweeter.
Here are some of our favorite engagement party recipes to get you started!
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Do: Pick a Convenient Location for Attendees
Save the destination location and grand ballroom for the wedding. For the engagement party, opt for convenience for the sake of your guests. A nearby restaurant or a friend’s home with plenty of entertaining space are both good options.
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Don’t: Overspend
Sure, newly engaged couples are excited to celebrate their huge announcement. Regardless, it’s crucial to keep a budget in mind, regardless of who is hosting the party or handling the bill. Save the splurges and big-ticket purchases for the wedding day.
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Do: Incorporate Personalized Touches
You can personalize almost anything, and engagement party decor is no different. You can have all sorts of decor monogrammed for the occasion. Or go subtle and use a certain color or flower throughout the space—it can be a nice preview of the wedding day theme. Here are a few ideas for DIY centerpieces.
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Don’t: Invite Someone Who Isn’t a Wedding Guest
If you wouldn’t invite someone to the wedding, don’t invite them to the engagement party (or the bridal shower for that matter). This will likely hurt someone’s feelings. Even if you’re not having a huge wedding, save the engagement party invites for wedding attendees only.
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Do: Decide on a Theme
If you love a good theme and get to host an engagement party, this could be your time to shine. Since engagement parties are often less formal than weddings, you can opt for something cheeky and fun like a tiki theme! Be sure to make the theme clear in your invitations so guests can dress appropriately.
If “no theme” is more your style, that’s OK, too. Just let guests know the dress code in advance.
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Don’t: Include Registry Information on the Invites
Yes, the happy couple might be ahead of the game when it comes to knowing what type of wedding gifts they’ll want to receive, but invitations—for engagement parties or weddings—are not the place to share registry info or links. This holds especially true for engagement parties since gifts are not obligatory in the first place.
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Do: Toast Your Guests
Being surrounded by amazing food, your favorite people and a whole lot of love can make an engagement party fly by for any newly engaged couple. Just don’t forget to take a minute or two and raise a glass to all of the family and friends who came out to support you on such a special occasion. When you’re ready to toast, follow this guide for how to open a bottle of champagne.
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Don’t: Plan Too Soon
Hosts may be eager to send out those engagement party invites as soon as they break the news, but it’s perfectly fine to wait before diving right into the engagement party planning process. The couple can take some time to themselves, allow it to soak in—and enjoy each other’s company—before getting family and friends involved.
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Do: Offer Party Favors
Whether it’s a sweet edible party favor or another memento, hosts and couples should provide guests with some type of favor. It’s a good way to show you appreciate your guests.
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Don’t: Forget the Thank You Notes
The day of an engagement party is hectic and busy, so it can be common for the new fiances and hosts to miss a few people before they leave the party. Make sure to designate someone to keep track of who attended the celebration, so that thank you cards can be mailed to sing their praises for coming.